Tuesday, April 26, 2011

I am a PROUD WLSer!

In response to the misinformed person who emailed me and suggested I cheated by having weight loss surgery...

Almost 5 yrs ago I made the best decision of my life: I had weight loss surgery (RNY gastric bypass 6/20/06), my BMI was 54 at the time, I was suffering from severe GERD, severe sleep apnea, dangerously high blood pressure.

Now: thankfully all medical conditions have been resolved, off all medications (I was on 8), went from a tight size 28 to 4.

Having surgery *is not a solution for everyone* it was the right one for me, it was the HEAD START I needed to change my life but as anyone who has had WLS knows it goes HAND IN HAND with HEALTHY EATING, DAILY EXERCISE & MOST IMPORTANTLY (the hardest part IMHO) working on the HEAD (the why's of why we got fat.)

This is a LIFELONG WAR VS. OBESITY. Having surgery was just one battle EVERYDAY I wake up & fight. My best wishes to everyone fighting the war with what ever weapon they choose to fight with.

I am a PROUD WLSer!

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P.S. I debated responding but you are obviously in need of education ;) happy to help.

42 comments:

Penny said...

I can see you work hard at staying healthy. It wasn't just WLS that has you looking and feeling the way you do. You make so many of your own meals and bake wholesome goodies avoiding drive thru's and pre packaged foods. That alone takes daily work, sacrifice and discipline.
Thanks for sharing your journey with us and enriching our lives.
-Penny

colleen said...

You said it! I agree with you whole heartedly.

Nicole T. said...

Well stated. I'm glad you responded to whomever. I am a proud WLSer as well. This is a daily battle and a very personal one at that. No one has told me, yet, that I took an easy road, when that day comes, I will take that opportunity to educate on the topic. WLS gave me an opportunity to save my own life, and I am only 8 months post op!

~Sandi @ This one time at 'band' camp... said...

Well said!!! Beautiful transformation and you look fabulous!!!

Sheila said...

LOVE what you wrote. It takes 100% committment just as any other method of weight loss, surgical or not. I am grateful for your blog and all of your yummy recipes that you so willing share with us!!! I'm also glad you are here to educated the mis-informed among us! ;-)
www.thisonebody.blogspot.com

Michelle said...

My friend who had WLS sent me your blog a couple years ago. I myself am doing Weight Watchers and am having great success. I respect anyones decision on which avenue they choose to get healthy. I totally agree that working on our "heads" is the key. Thank you for sharing your life.

Stacy said...

Very well said! It is sad that some are so uneducated about the process that we go through.

Tara from MI said...

If having your guts re-arranged ( oh yeah THAT felt gooood) is "cheating", taking the "easy" way out - what the heck is "the hard way"!!!??? It is a struggle every day to eat the right way, fit exercise in and keep off that hard won weight loss. I admire and respect you so much, you and your blog have been such a beacon in my life since I started this journey. Thank you so much for your light - let it shine....:)

Gastric Bypass Princess said...

I too am now a WLSer as of April 15th, 2011 and do not in anyway feel that it was the easy way out. I will have to work hard for the rest of my life, every decision I make could potentially affect my success. If I leave the house without a plan, I could fail. From now on I am going to eat to live, not eat to live, and with the help of Shelly and her amazing recipes I will NOT be a failure.

Lynda said...

Thanx Sista'
I always enjoy you, and your comments.

Lynda

Marcia said...

Thank you for addressing this issue. Yesterday I read a comment in SHAPE Magazine about a woman who lost 100 lbs "the old-fashioned way" as a "last resort" before considering gastric bypass. Great for her, but some of us have struggled all of our lives with our weight and I'm so thankful that WLS 2.5 years ago gave me my life back. I'm 59 and wish RNY had been available to me 20 years ago when I first gained the excess weight.

Nana said...

The person that sent that was evidently a coward. It doesn't take much guts to send an email dissing someone. And, it is really tacky. (Here in Texas where I live there is not ANYTHING lower than being tacky. LOL!)
Like I told you on FB today, I am a big fan of yours, Shelly! I am proud to be an Egghead!
Thanks for your blog and all your good hints! And the recipes???!!!! OOOOO! Bliss!
When that email idiot has wls then maybe, MAYBE he/she can tell us then if it is still cheating!
Lowlife, tacky person... but I swear I don't mean that in a bad way.

Sandy said...

Well said, Shelly! I have to laugh sometimes at the thoughtless and miss informed things people say about those of us that have had WLS. I've heard a lot of people that are "dieting" to lose weight say they are doing it the "hard way". It usually doesn't bother me that they think that way. Personally, other than the first few weeks of pain and adjustment, this really has been the easiest thing I've ever done. If it makes someone else feel better about themselves to think badly of my decision, they are welcome to do that. Obviously it is more important to them than it is to me. I am thrilled with my decision and my results and my only regret is that I suffered as long as I did before I did it. I resisted it for years telling myself it was the easy way and that I could "do it on my own". I finally realized I needed the kind of help that only surgery could give me. 2 1/2 years later I have lost 146lbs and no longer have high blood pressure, GERD, or sleep apnea.
I credit you and your blog for making my life "easier" since my surgery. I love every one of your recipes that I have tried. And even more important to me, my non WLS husband loves them as well!=) Thanks for everything you do to make other post ops successful.

M said...

You said my exact words! This is why I have not told my family about my WLS. People judge, people are misinformed and some people are jerks. They haven't walked a few steps in our shoes let alone a mile. I was borderline diabetic, had sleep apnea, incontinent, severe arthritis, high blood pressure, high cholesterol. I was death waiting to happen. Everything is gone now except for the sleep apnea and arthritis and that will go away as well! You were a beautiful woman before and still are now, just keep on keepin' on!

VWBUG said...

I am getting ready to have WLS and I have read several blogs from people both pro and con with this surgery.
There are people who have had this done and gained all their weight back. That just proves that even with this you have to work at it.
I am just at the liquid part of the process, let me tell you it's not as easy as it sounds. But I will make it so that one day I can see the same great results you have.

Anonymous said...

wish i knew how to type clapping hands!!! I applaud you every step of the way!!! a great role model for all.

canticles said...

Seriously? Okay, is someone cheating their lung cancer by having chemotherapy? If we are looking at it as addiction, is a smoker cheating their "quit" by using a patch?

BeckyVDU said...

Shelly, you're right that person was a "misinformed" person. It is not the easy way out, you still have to work at it and you have to work with it. Glad you took the high road. You worked hard to get where you are and to maintain where you are!

Becky

Anonymous said...

Well said and I agree wholeheartedly. WLS is a process and it takes a huge commitment to be successful. I know it was the best decision I made for myself and truly appreciate you sharing your journey and tips and yummy recipes. There will always be people willing to put others down and they are not only in need of an education but perhaps some self-esteem. Thanks for taking the high road and keeping it classy!

tv47908 said...

I think that statement has been one of my greatest fears since having surgery a year ago. Thank you so much for showing that you can respond with grace and dignity and truly be proud of this path we have chosen. You are truly an inspiration <3

wilma said...

There is nothing easy about ANY wls. It takes dedication, grit, and stamina to excel with this change in lifestyle. Your blog is a godsend to us. Recipes can be used by anyone and you are an inspiration.

Antonia said...

Yes we have to teach people one ignorant insult at a time. You such a great example for all of us!

Karen said...

There's plenty of those emailers out there, some anonymous, others not so much...

My neighbor told me that I cheated by having lap-band. I agreed that I cheated. I cheated DEATH..... and if she was staring death in the face like I was, she might have a SMALL bit of a clue.

Ignorance is bliss..... until it starts talking.

Shrinking Violet said...

I'm about 10 months post RNY and feeling 'normal' sized for the first time in decades. Some of us - the ones who would've survived a famine in neanderthal times - just can't control the kind of fatty sugary food which is so freely available these days. At work we had almost daily birthdays when someone would bring in cake, sweets and fatty sugary 'treats' which would be left around the office all day. (would this be acceptable if it was alcohol, and one of the workers was an alcoholic?) We're programmed to eat and few of us have an off button. So I always say that my surgery didn't make it easier to lose weight, it just made it possible. Now I have an off button. Shelly - you are an absolute ray of positivity, and I love reading your blog. Don't let the mean-spirited get you down - they live mean little unhappy lives.

Michelle said...

I am also a proud WLSer. I am currently 8 months post op and it was the best decision I ever made. Thanks for sharing your journey, tips and most of all the delicious healthy recipes!

Ally said...

I love when misinformed people make assumptions.

Having weight loss surgery is a tool just as is eating package diet food, taking part in a diet program or exercise program.

I just had weight loss surgery (sleeve where they remove 50% or higher of your tummy)and I can tell you that some people from my class (Kaiser makes you take a class before you can have surgery) have not had success. These people have regular shakes because they do not like the protein shake. Have not started to exercise and stilleat unhealthy food.

I have had friends who have had the lap band and lost over 90 pounds only to gain it all back.

If you do not change your lifestyle your body will adjust to the calories you are consuming and you will stop losing weight.

I lost 50 pounds right away. Now I have to exercise and watch what I eat.

I read your blog because unlike some blogs you never say “this is what you should be doing” you say “this is what I have chosen to do.

I thank you for sharing your lifestyle and taking the time to educate a newbie like me.

While unlike you I do consume carbs in the form of rice, bread and pasta that is my choice. Like you I consume veggies and fruit which some other blogs are against as these can be considered carbs.

Lastly you know how hard you worked. Do not let some little person who cannot see nor understand the service that your blog provides bring you down.

bec said...

Well done! Every day, I read your blog and remind myself that I'm not the only one fighting each and every single day. Thanks!

Jan said...

You said it, sista! I work hard at my weight loss, not yet achieving my goals because it continues to be a battle for me. Yes, I got a jump-start with WLS, but it involved having my guts rearranged and a lot of sweat, tears, planning, hard work and determination. It will never NOT be a struggle for me but I'm grateful for my WLS -- and grateful for advocates and cheerleaders like you, Eggface.

Tammy said...

Go get 'em, Shelly!

Anonymous said...

About five years ago my mom told me she was having RNY surgery. At that time I chose NOT to educate myself and even flippantly said "WLS is just a surgical reason to stay on a diet." It was said with negative connotation meaning “She cant seem to stick with any diet, I hope she doesn’t hurt herself by having surgery and then not sticking to it.” (I know, what a lousy way to be supportive, right?) I never said that to her, and I was as supportive as I knew how to be at the time.

Four years after saying that, my mom was still at her goal weight. I couldn’t be more proud of her sticking with her plan and getting healthy. Last May I decided that I needed “a surgical reason to stay on a diet” and had RNY surgery as well. Luckily, she was more supportive than I was. She was terrific and has been one of my many cheerleaders as I got down to my goal weight.

Ya know what? People will think what they will think. People will say what they will say. We can choose to educate them or not – either way, we have all made the decision that we feel works best for us.

Good for you Shelly. I am glad that you wrote what you wrote to educate that misinformed person. Thank you for everything you do for the WLS community by sharing your story, successes, recipes, and tips.

~fawn

McNee said...

Thanks Shelly... don't comment much cause I usually read your stuff in my RSS feed, but wanted to just come leave a comment in support.

I've been lucky in that I haven't run in to anyone giving me this sort of attitude. Maybe they think it behind my back? I dunno.

Sometimes I do have my doubts... sometimes I wonder if I have had it "too easy", but then friends and family remind me of the dedication I have put in to this new life style... about the choices made every day. And I suppose that's what it comes down to, the struggle to make the best choices we can each and every day.

NewLife09 said...

Well said!!!

Nanette said...

Last night after I saw this I made a list of all of the meds I used to be on prior to my "easy way out". I was on 15 yes 15 different meds, diabetes, gerd, high blood pressure. I was high dosages of all of the meds, most of them the highest doses available.

I used to think that surgery was the cheating way to lose weight and it was not for me when my dr suggested it years ago.

4 years ago I got tired of being in the hospital 2 to 2 x's a year for various reasons all stemmed from my weight. I decided drastic measures were needed as I was at my highest 396 pounds. I looked into the lap band thinking it was less evasive after much research and going to seminars with different drs, I made the best decision for myself and decided to get RNY. It took 3 years to get approved by my insurance, and last 11/30 was my new birth date.

Thanks to finding your blog this process has been much easier, to date I am down 105 pounds. And I no longer spend $400 every 3 months on meds, (TG for great health insurance).

No longer Sick and Tired

Anonymous said...

You tell 'em sister. This was not the easy way out, this was THE ONLY WAY OUT for me!!! Now, I have to work to keep it off like anyone else. WLS saved my life and I am proud to tell anyone and everyone about it!!!

Anonymous said...

Amen sister! I had my surgery in February and its the best thing I've ever done for myself! Your site is a fav of mine, thanks!!

Gastric Kitty said...

I don't understand how people can think that weight loss surgery is easy. How can having major abdominal surgery, having your insides rearranged, and having restricted and very specific dietary needs for the rest of your life be easy?

I am having surgery this summer. Already I'm getting comments like "Couldn't you just diet and exercise?" and "Why don't you just get a personal trainer and gym membership?". Obviously, if I could lose the weight and keep it off, I would have done it by now.

Weight loss surgery is not a spur of the moment decision because you're too lazy to lose the weight. It's a "when all else fails" option when you just can't seem to do it yourself and you need to change your life.

Most people who get weight loss surgery need it. It's hard work! How is that cheating?

- Gastric Kitty

Anonymous said...

Sing it sister!! Regardless of what one does, there's always going to be someone else who disagrees or is opposed. Let them waste their time judging, meanwhile I'm out shopping for cute clothes, running up and down flights of stairs, eating delicious healthy food, and reading great supportive websites like this! Oh yeah!

ravelling said...

Well said! I'm another grateful, proud and ALIVE bypasser :)

Kiwigirl said...

I'm a new follower. Great post. Who knows why people feel the need to criticise. It's clear that the surgery is a tool and you've had to do a lot to get and keep yourself in such great shape!

Vmac1972 said...

Amen, Shelly! Amen!!

~K said...

You are obviously in need of education...best...line...ever! :)

Chelsea's Mom said...

It makes me angry when people think this was the easy way out! This is by far the most difficult "diet" I have ever been on. On a 'regular' diet, if I cheat I don't lose as fast. Here (early on) if I cheat, I get violently ill. I'm on a difficult path right now, lost over 178 pounds w/surgery, but gained about 20 back this Fall. Everyone looks at me as if I failed them for some reason. Lots of guilt and self-anger. So you're right about the head games with WLS. It is not a magic bullet, it is just a tool in our arsenol. It is a lot of work to lose it and more to retain that loss.